FIVE
QUESTIONS
Twenty questions. Four relationships. Free to read, free to screenshot — and built to be sent to one person.
The sets
Your sibling
Five questions you should ask your sibling, but you don’t.
- What’s something you’re going through that I wouldn’t know about right now?
- Do you think I understand the person you’re becoming, or only the version of you I grew up with?
- What’s one thing you wish we spoke more about as siblings?
- When do you feel closest to me, and when do you feel most distant?
- What’s something you hope never changes about our relationship as we grow up?
Your mother
Five questions for the woman you know completely as Mum, and barely at all as her.
- Mumma, when you were our age, what were you like as a teenager?
- What’s one thing you always wanted to do but never got the chance to?
- When you were a kid, who did you talk to when you were sad?
- Both of us know you as the person who is always trying to do every single thing for us. Besides that — what’s one very important thing about you that we still don’t know?
- And last, the most important one — Mumma, aaj kya banaya hai?
The person you’re long distance with
Five questions for the call you were going to have tonight anyway.
- What’s something from your day that you’d never think to tell me?
- When in the day do you miss me the most, and when do you not think of me as much?
- What are you not telling me right now because you don’t want me to worry?
- What does the version of us that isn’t long distance look like to you?
- What’s one thing that would make the distance feel a little smaller this week?
The person you keep meaning to text
Five questions for reconnecting, when it has been long enough that starting feels awkward.
- What has life really looked like for you lately?
- What has changed since we last properly spoke?
- What are you excited about right now?
- Is there anything you wish you’d checked in about?
- How can we stay in each other’s lives this time?
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A note on what this is. These are conversation starters, not therapy, and not an assessment of anyone. Nothing here diagnoses a relationship or tells you what is wrong with one. Ask what you want to ask, skip what you don’t, and let the other person do the same.
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