Everything written here in one place. Start with body mapping, which is the work I am deepest in, or go straight to the subject you came for.
Start here: body mapping
Body mapping is a reflective practice where you mark on the outline of a body where things live, and then read what you made. I presented on it at the 6th International Conference on Counselling and Psychotherapy this year, and I run workshops in it.
Body Mapping: What It Is, and Why I Have Spent Two Years On It
What body mapping is, where the method came from, and what two years of working with it has taught me about the limits of words.
What Body Mapping Does Not Do
There is no chart that says what a red mark on your chest means. A post about the limits of body mapping, and why the limits are the point.
Body Mapping Workshops
The next one is free and online. Join the waitlist and you will be emailed when the date is set.
Family
The house you were made in: siblings, mothers, fathers, and the conversations that never happened.
Before You Were My Mumma
I asked my mother four questions in the kitchen. The first answer was one I had never heard in twenty years.
Why the Car Is Where Your Mother Actually Talks
Why the honest conversations with your mother happen in the car, and the five questions that belong there.
The Rakhi Takes Ten Seconds
The thread takes ten seconds. Four questions, and what my brother actually said.
No Sibling Talks Like That
The top comment on the siblings reel said no sibling talks like that. It is right, and it is also the whole point.
Is Your Teen Triggering Your Inner Teen?
Your fifteen-year-old asks to go out on a Wednesday. You say no. She slams her bedroom door hard enough that the frame rattles, and something in yo…
The Day Your Teen Talks Back Is the Day Everything Changes
“Don’t you dare talk to me like that.”“Who do you think you are, answering back like this?”“We never had the au…
The Hidden Cost of Raising “Good” Children
As parents, you often like to think that you’re treating your children equally, but have you ever wondered how your actions might be influenc…
Relationships
The room with the person you chose, and the distance that grows quietly.
It Takes Six Seconds
The smallest reliable thing you can change in a relationship, and why the duration is the active ingredient.
“How Was Your Day” Is the Wrong Question for Long Distance
The dead video call is a structural problem, not a lack of love. Five questions that fix it.
Why Your Partner May Not Show Love the Way You Expect
You planned a whole romantic dinner with fairy lights, candles, and their favorite food but they didn’t look that impressed. Meanwhile, they fixed…
Is Communication the issue in your relationship?
“She talks about every little thing that doesn’t even matter.”“He doesn’t share anything about his feelings with me.&…
Psychology
How the thing actually works, with the research it rests on.
“My Shoulder Hurts But the Doctor Said Nothing Is Wrong”
The tests are clear and the shoulder still hurts. What is actually happening, and why it shows up so much in our families.
Couples Therapy vs Individual Therapy: Why It Feels Different
Wondering why couples therapy vs individual therapy feels slower at the start? Here is what the therapeutic alliance research says about why that i…
Is Working From Home Costing Us Human Connection?
Have you ever felt more drained by your kitchen-table meetings than you ever did in a crowded conference room? Is working from home making us more…
The First Thirty Seconds: Why Some People Are Easy to Talk To
You have met someone who does this. Ten minutes into a conversation with a stranger, you have told them something you have not told people you have…
Why Do We Fight: The Psychology of Arguments in Relationships
Arguments are an inevitable part of any relationship. Whether it’s a romantic partnership, a friendship, or even a familial relationship, disagreem…
Emotions
Overthinking, guilt, anger, and the feelings nobody taught you to name.
Two Questions I Ask Myself When I Start Overthinking
Rumination feels like problem solving and is not. Two questions that interrupt the loop.
What Makes Love Last: The Science of Lasting Love
What makes love last? Research by the Gottmans reveals surprising patterns, from everyday warmth to love maps, that build lasting love over time.
The Pursue-Withdraw Cycle: Why You Keep Fighting
The pursue-withdraw cycle explains why two people who love each other keep missing each other. Learn what drives the pattern and how to begin shift…
Is Overthinking Running Your Life?
“What will they think?” “Did I say something wrong?” “Am I coming across as weird?” Sounds familiar? Overthinki…
Becoming
Growing up, moving away, and the person you are turning into.
For the Daughters Who Learned That Being Good Meant Being Invisible
She never gives any trouble. You would not even know she is in the house. Every one of those is a compliment about absence.
South Asian Identity and Mental Health: Living Between Two Cultures
South Asian identity and mental health are deeply intertwined. Explore bicultural identity, intersectionality, and what helps when you belong to tw…
You are and always have been More Than Enough
Why I Wrote a Guided Journal for Anxious Hearts I didn’t set out to “be an author.” I set out to make something I needed on the days my thoughts fe…
Start Before Grade 12: What Actually Makes an Application Stand Out
Two students come to me in Grade 12. The first has one activity outside class and a growing sense of panic. The second has twenty, in every directi…
My Semester Abroad
As an undergraduate student in Psychology and Sociology, meeting people and learning from them is something that keeps me going. I recently finishe…
Students
Studying abroad, exams, and the pressure that comes with both.
How to un-confuse your mind?
Are you someone applying to universities for 2025 and feel that you do not have any idea as to what you want to study and where you’d want to…
What It Means to Be an Indian Student Abroad?
Studying abroad is becoming increasingly common for Indians but if you are someone who has not gone out on this adventure yet, thinking about stayi…
Why Time Management Doesn’t Work for Students (And What Does)
You made a timetable. It was a good timetable. Colour coded, realistic, even a bit generous with the breaks. You did not follow it. And on Sunday n…
Reclaim Peace During the Messy University Transition with Metta
As a university student, you’re embarking on an exciting journey filled with opportunities for growth and learning. Yet, it can also bring challeng…
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